October 30, 2023

top Parenting Tips for Toddlers

In this post, I’m going to go into 8 Parenting Tips for Toddlers that REALLY work, and very well at that!

Trust me, I know – Being a parent of a child of any age is difficult, to say the least…

But it’s also one of the most rewarding things you will ever do.

From the moment most parents first hold their baby they fall helplessly in love, and it’s important for you to hold onto that feeling as you struggle to deal with the demanding needs of a toddler.

While you are probably more than a little tired, and probably a bit frustrated as well, remember that things will get better.

Life may be difficult right now, but these parenting tips for toddlers can help to make things quite a bit easier for you while helping you to catch your breath.

Top 8 Parenting Tips for Toddlers

1. Be Consistent

Toddlers will test your boundaries often and they will get away with as much bad behavior as you allow them to. If you let them do what they want all of the time because it’s easier than dealing with them throwing a fit, you are going to end up regretting it.

The best way to end up with a happy, well-adjusted and well-behaved child is to create a structured environment from a young age and to be consistent.

This Video (Not ours) has some AMAZING tips on how to properly (and successfully) set boundaries with your toddler, take a few minutes to watch it!

You can’t let your toddler do something one day, then decide the next day that it’s no longer okay for them to do that.

By creating a structured environment, and being consistent, your toddler will learn proper behavior, and believe it or not they will be happier since toddlers prefer a structured environment.

2. Don’t Reward Bad Behavior

Don't Reward Toddlers for Bad Behavior

When a typical toddler doesn’t get their way they get upset. If that toddler gets upset enough it can trigger a meltdown, also known as a major fit.

Toddlers lack communication skills and they lack emotional control. When a toddler throws a fit it’s his or her way of expressing that they are unhappy and their attempt to get you to give them what they want.

If your response to their fit is to give in to get them to calm down, then you are simply teaching your child that throwing fits will get them what they want.

Then the next time they want something they will be conditioned to throw another fit.

So, when your child throws a fit don’t give in. It’s not going to hurt them at all to cry a little, and if you don’t give them what they want then they should quickly give up and they will learn that this behavior will not help them to get their way.

3. Start Teaching Them To Eat Healthy From A Young Age

Healthy Foods for Toddlers

One of the challenges that many parents complain about is trying to get their child to eat a variety of healthy foods.

The best way to avoid having this become a problem later in life is to start early by teaching your toddler to eat healthy foods.

So make sure that once your toddler starts to eat solid foods that you introduce them to fruits and vegetables as well as lean protein sources.

If you allow your toddler to eat cookies on a regular basis then that’s all they are going to ever want to eat. Instead, focus on feeding them healthy foods and only give them treats on rare occasions.

4. Make Sure That You Reward Good Behavior

Reward Toddlers for Good Behavior

While most parents are interested in how to effectively discipline bad behavior, it’s important that you also take the time to reinforce good behavior.

By reinforcing good behavior with praise, affection, games, and even the occasional treat.

Your toddler wants nothing more than to make you happy, so doing something as simple as hugging them and telling them that you are proud of them really can go a long way in terms of helping them to learn what good behavior is.

5. Don’t Let Your Emotions Get The Best Of You


When dealing with an emotional toddler the worst thing you can do is to allow your emotions to dictate your behavior.

It can be difficult, but you need to remember that you are the adult here and it’s up to you to remain calm.

If you ever do find yourself getting upset the best thing you can do is walk away for a moment, catch your breath and calm yourself, then return to the problem that was upsetting you so that you can deal with it in a more rational manner.

An irrational toddler can be incredibly frustrating, but acting out in anger will only make things worse.

6. Teach Your Toddler About Consequences

Getting a toddler to behave all of the time is impossible.

Rather than trying to force them to behave all of the time you should instead show them that their bad behavior has consequences.

One of the most effective ways you can do this is to punish them by making them deal with the effects of their bad behavior.

For example, if your toddler continues to make a mess in their room, and they refuse to stop doing it, then quit trying to force them to keep it clean.

Instead, you should approach them after they have made a mess in their room and then make them clean it up.

Your toddler should learn pretty quickly that they don’t like cleaning up their own mess, which will help them to learn the proper behavior of keeping their room clean.

7. Keep Things Simple

When you are explaining rules and consequences to your toddler it’s important for you to keep in mind that you are speaking to a child that lacks the ability to communicate at an adult level.

That means that you need to keep things simple.

So, when teaching your child about the rules of the house you need to try to keep the number of rules to a minimum and make sure that they are simple and easy to understand.

When explaining the consequences of violating those rules make sure that you are also clear, and that any punishments are simple like requiring them to go to their room for 10 minutes, or not being allowed to play with a favorite toy for an hour.

8. Make Sure That Your Toddler Knows That They Are Loved

Make Sure Your Toddler Knows They Are Loved

This may be obvious, but hear me out: 🙂

ALWAYS make sure that your toddler always knows that you love them!

That means that after they have behaved badly, and been punished, you shouldn’t hesitate to give them a hug and tell them that you love them.

Your toddler needs your affection, and it can actually help your toddler to learn to behave better by showing them that you are there to support them no matter what.

How About You?

Do you use any of these methods? Is there anything you’d like to add, or take away? Shout out in the comments section below, we (and other readers) would love to hear from you!

Seriously, don’t be shy! 🙂

Yvette & Jeff

About the author 

Jeff and Yvette

Jeff & his Wife Yvette live in Anaheim Hills, in Orange County California.

They're fans of Disneyland, and traveling, and are parents to TWO Awesome Kid, Steven Andrew (10/21), and Amelia (9/19) :-)

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